So…it’s Thursday? Yes, it’s Thursday. hmm… (insert comment about how fast the week flew by and acknowledge that I haven’t written anything for almost a week. Hang head low in silent shame for a second. And…done). It’s Thursday! Oh, Weekend, won’t you be mine?
This past week, I paid a visit to my local library and borrowed the book that inspired the movie, He’s Just Not Into You. I know, I know. I was curious, all right?
All I can say is that some of us would have benefited from some of the things it talked about in college. So many hours/days/weeks/months wasted asking questions like “What did I do wrong? Why do we only communicate via text?” and settling for “I know he said he’s not into the ‘whole dating thing’ and he just wants to “hang out”, but hanging out is something, right?” Having something that looked like a relationship seemed better than having nothing/being alone/feeling lonely and dejected. We needed either a book like this, or caring guy friends/brothers who would lovingly tell us, “hey, he’s just not into you. You deserve better than that.” But who knows, maybe we wouldn’t have listened to them anyway.
Which brings me to this little fun discovery last night. So, He’s Just Not Into You is co-written by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, who later wrote a novel called How to Be Single. Curiosity about this book led me to her website with the documentary-style clips about her journey to different cities in the world, asking questions about how different cultures handle relationships, dating, marriage and the single life.
If you have an hour or 2 to kill, it’s definitely worth checking out.
A caveat however: Do not take it all seriously. Liz is silly at times, which makes it hilarious. It deals with generalizations, so there is the risk of believing that all the people from the places she visited think about these issues the same way. I just took it for what it was: the point of view of various people in various parts of the world.
Now, I did notice that no African country was listed. I think it would be an interesting documentary to make. What do young people in the thriving/flourishing/rising metropolises in Africa think about relationships, dating, marriage and being single. From Dakar to Nairobi to Addis Ababa to Johannesburg. In societies where the western way of living co-exists (sometimes, uncomfortably) with traditional ways of Life and Religion, it would be interesting to hear the point of views of young people of various age groups.
Maybe, there IS a documentary out there like that and I just don’t know about it. Quite possible.